How to read the Enneagram:
Type Two’s, based on the Enneagram, are accommodating, supportive, and empathetic. Twos are self-sacrificing and thoughtful, caring, and full of unconditional love. The number Eight on the Enneagram depicts the stress point.
The number Four on the Enneagram depicts the security point. These points may also resonate with the Two. As circumstances change, so a Two’s actions may change accordingly.
The TWO, by definition
As a type Two, putting others first is a priority. Twos are altruistic, unselfish and love to be involved in other people’s lives, lending a helping hand wherever possible or necessary. They are compassionate and people are drawn to them – they have the ability to open their hearts to others, uplifting and appreciating them. Feeling this in return is important to Twos because, like all of us they want to receive as much as they give, in terms of love and compassion, but they don’t always, know how to hear others’ appreciation. Archbishop Desmond Tutu is considered a Two, because he displays enormous amounts of empathy and compassion towards others. “Twos are naturally emotionally intelligent, and may take a lot of pride in how well they understand others’ needs, says Saffron Baggallay.
The feeling of needing to receive as much as they give can become consuming to Twos. They seek validation for their doings, often holding this in, which can lead to a buildup of resentment or anger towards those they care for deeply. This can sometimes be misunderstood by other types, whose primary focus might be elsewhere.
At their best, Twos are kind-hearted, generous and are able to give so much of themselves to others, going out of their way to help, console and build others up. They are sincere and forgiving and are able to see the best in people, bringing out the best in others too. Two’s love giving love and being loved, although they find it hard to receive love at times. At times, Twos may be regarded as people-pleasing, sometimes, to their own detriment. If they become disappointed in not getting back what they give out, Twos may begin to yearn for recognition and can become bitter towards those they’re close to. This can cause them to become overbearing and possessive.
“At their most conscious, Twos are aware of what others’ need but don’t feel the need to rush in and help, because they are able to transcend their unconscious need to give, to get,” says Saffron Baggallay. They are heartfelt and empathetic leaders, who channel love and kindness into everything they do – into their work, their relationships and into their community. But be warned: don’t ever mistake a Two’s kindness for weakness.