Updated: Jun 2, 2020
We humans are wired to love, to be connected, to crave acceptance and belonging. It’s when we feel these things that we thrive because we feel joy. So why is finding love, being in love or staying in love so hard? I think one of the reasons is because none of us practice nearly enough self-love & self-esteem, which is dangerous considering how judgmental and competitive our social and professional lives are.
Did you know that we are all born to instinctively trust & want to bond with others?
Connecting with others is not just a nice to have, it’s actually a neurological need. That’s why I love Valentine’s day, because it reminds us to celebrate love. It’s no accident then that I was born on this day because I celebrate love and teach others to do the same.
The significance of self-love when loving others.
With some alone time in the midst of a usually frantic schedule, I thought about the special people in my life and I realized how I can feel their love really because I have learned how to be open and receptive in my heart by becoming aware of why I would shut it down. As a head type on the Enneagram sentience does not come naturally to me and so I have had to practice loosening the solar plexus and engaging with the sensations in my body that this awakens to be able to be present to myself enough to feel & really experience feeling. This practice would be helpful for many of us in today’s technologically fueled fast pace world. It’s a powerful way to distress and slow down, quickly, but it takes conscious effort because our easily we live in our heads.
What’s Important to Enneagram Head Types
Contemplating what’s important to me I always return to safety. For me, as a type seven it’s emotional safety and the addiction to anticipating that relationships with others will not fulfill this need. This is why I am so drawn immediately to eights & how loyal & trustworthy they are. So many people think of the 8 as someone who enjoys conflict and dominating others. This could not be further from the truth. Eights are discerning about how they can trust, but if you are privileged enough to gain their heart-trust there is nothing they wouldn’t do for those they love. I don’t know how I got so lucky, but I want to thank all the eights in my life who I know I could phone any time. Knowing you have my back is the best birthday present I could have today and all year long.